After all, it’s not always easy to big yourself up without sounding conceited or (even worse) desperate.
But did you know that one in three couples now find love online?
I spend lots of time in this column and over at A(n)nals of Online Dating documenting the worst of the worst internet daters. But there are also some really good ones — and some mediocre ones that could be so much better if not for rookie mistakes.
So, welcome to Internet Dating Bootcamp, where I'll teach you how to trick unsuspecting users into thinking you’re actually cool and normal. You need to be you in your online dating profile, but the process of creating one is a good time to think about what kindergarten teachers call “being your best self at school.” If you’re attracted to Type-A go-getter types who get up at 6am to exercise, emphasize your similar love of hard work. Want someone who shares your taste for obscure French films? No, not everyone wants to date a carbon copy of themselves, but most of us want to be with someone with some overlapping interests.
In this fast-paced, social media-dependent world, we rely on the Internet for everything – from keeping in touch with old school friends and career networking to ordering takeaways and finding a cat-sitter for that weekend away.
So it only seems logical you would use the good old Internet for finding that special someone, too.
Keep your product’s major flaws out of the commercial.
When determining what you want to put in your profile, you need to first know what your best qualities are.The only difference is in real life you have time to immediately correct a faux pas.So you need your profile to show you off in a way that will catch a man's eye and interest right away. You might laugh more at his jokes, you pay closer attention to what he says, and you show your best side. Excitement is what you want a man feeling when he's done reading what you've written.‘Play up your love of anything sporty, outdoorsy or public – like concerts and exhibitions.’ Wouldn’t you know, profile photos that demonstrate you playing your guitar or downhill skiing – even if your face isn’t showing – get more messages.Avoid negative tones and always be positive about yourself. You wouldn’t want a future employer to read anything negative, so why would you want a potential partner to read anything that isn’t positive?